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Thursday, October 15, 2020

illness and disability in fiction

The next Reader’s Advisory Roundtable meeting will be on Zoom on Wednesday, December 9th at 9am to discuss cookbooks. Our usual potluck coffee and snack meeting will be sorely missed!

Be on the lookout for a survey about the recent Staff Appreciation Week (SAW).  Please do share your thoughts and opinions with the JCPLA Executive Council.  We’ll likely be doing virtual/remote staff training for a while yet, so let us know what you’d like to see/hear and how you’d like to receive that content in the future. 

The JCPLA is in the initial stages of sharing our SAW content with the Alabama Library Association to benefit librarianship statewide!

No one volunteered or nominated another candidate for moderator, so Holley will continue as Reader’s Advisory Roundtable moderator for the 2020-2021 year. Meetings will continue on Zoom until further notice. 

The dates and topics for 2021 meetings are as follows:

February 10 – Religious/Inspirational Fiction
April 14 – Podcasts and Other Not-a-Book Recommendations
June 9 – LGBTQ Fiction & Nonfiction
August 11 – #ownvoices
October 13 – Bookclub Possibilities
December 8 – Award Winners

 

We met this week, Wednesday October 14th, on Zoom to talk about disability and mental health/illness in fiction.

11 in attendance:

Holley, O’Neal Library
Nicole, Tarrant Library
Shawn, Pinson Library
Nisha, Hoover/O’Neal libraries
Maura, Trussville Library
Laura, Homewood Library
Riana, Pinson Library
Alisha, Birmingham Public Library
Michelle, Irondale Library
Joi, Vestavia Library
Marsha, I did not record the location

 

The titles we discussed:

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
A Reese Witherspoon Book Club Pick

No one’s ever told Eleanor that life should be better than fine. 

Meet Eleanor Oliphant: She struggles with appropriate social skills and tends to say exactly what she’s thinking. Nothing is missing in her carefully timetabled life of avoiding social interactions, where weekends are punctuated by frozen pizza, vodka, and phone chats with Mummy. 

But everything changes when Eleanor meets Raymond, the bumbling and deeply unhygienic IT guy from her office. When she and Raymond together save Sammy, an elderly gentleman who has fallen on the sidewalk, the three become the kinds of friends who rescue one another from the lives of isolation they have each been living. And it is Raymond’s big heart that will ultimately help Eleanor find the way to repair her own profoundly damaged one.

Soon to be a major motion picture produced by Reese Witherspoon, Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine is the smart, warm, and uplifting story of an out-of-the-ordinary heroine whose deadpan weirdness and unconscious wit make for an irresistible journey as she realizes. . .the only way to survive is to open your heart. 

Holley, O’Neal Library
Michelle, Irondale Library

Queenie by Candice Carty-Williams

ONE OF TIME’S 100 BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR
ONE OF NPR’S BEST BOOKS OF 2019
NAMED ONE OF THE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOKS OF 2019 BY WOMAN’S DAY, NEWSDAY, PUBLISHERS WEEKLY, BUSTLE, AND BOOK RIOT!

Bridget Jones’s Diary meets Americanah in this disarmingly honest, boldly political, and truly inclusive novel that will speak to anyone who has gone looking for love and found something very different in its place.

Queenie Jenkins is a twenty-five-year-old Jamaican British woman living in London, straddling two cultures and slotting neatly into neither. She works at a national newspaper, where she’s constantly forced to compare herself to her white middle class peers. After a messy break up from her long-term white boyfriend, Queenie seeks comfort in all the wrong places…including several hazardous men who do a good job of occupying brain space and a bad job of affirming self-worth. As Queenie careens from one questionable decision to another, she finds herself wondering, “What are you doing? Why are you doing it? Who do you want to be?”—all of the questions today’s woman must face in a world trying to answer them for her.

With “fresh and honest” (Jojo Moyes) prose, Queenie is a remarkably relatable exploration of what it means to be a modern woman searching for meaning in today’s world.

Shawn, Pinson Library

Eliza and Her Monsters by Francesca Zappia

In the real world, Eliza Mirk is shy, weird, and friendless. Online, Eliza is LadyConstellation, anonymous creator of a popular webcomic called Monstrous Sea. With millions of followers and fans throughout the world, Eliza’s persona is popular. Eliza can’t imagine enjoying the real world as much as she loves her digital community.

Then Wallace Warland transfers to her school and Eliza begins to wonder if a life offline might be worthwhile. But when Eliza’s secret is accidentally shared with the world, everything she’s built—her story, her relationship with Wallace, and even her sanity—begins to fall apart.

With pages from Eliza’s webcomic, as well as screenshots from Eliza’s online forums, this uniquely formatted book will appeal to fans of Noelle Stevenson’s Nimona and Rainbow Rowell’s Fangirl

Riana, Pinson Library

The Weight of Our Sky by Hanna Alkaf

Melati Ahmad looks like your typical movie-going, Beatles-obsessed sixteen-year-old. Unlike most other sixteen-year-olds though, Mel also believes that she harbors a djinn inside her, one who threatens her with horrific images of her mother's death unless she adheres to an elaborate ritual of counting and tapping to keep him satisfied.

But there are things that Melati can't protect her mother from. On the evening of May 13th, 1969, racial tensions in  her home city of Kuala Lumpur boil over. The Chinese and Malays are at war, and Mel and her mother become separated by a city in flames.

With a 24-hour curfew in place and all lines of communication down, it will take the help of a Chinese boy named Vincent and all of the courage and grit in Melati's arsenal to overcome the violence on the streets, her own prejudices, and her djinn's surging power to make it back to the one person she can't risk losing.

Riana, Pinson Library

What Comes After by Steve Watkins

After her veterinarian dad dies, sixteen-year-old Iris Wight must leave her beloved Maine to live on a North Carolina farm with her hardbitten aunt and a cousin she barely knows. Iris, a vegetarian and animal lover, immediately clashes with Aunt Sue, who mistreats the livestock, spends Iris’s small inheritance, and thinks nothing of striking Iris for the smallest offense.

Things come to a head when Iris sets two young goats free to save them from slaughter, and an enraged Aunt Sue orders her brutish son, Book, to beat Iris senseless - a horrific act that lands Book and his mother in jail. Sent to live with an offbeat foster family and their "dooking" ferrets, Iris must find a way to take care of the animals back at the farm, even if it means confronting Aunt Sue. Powerful and deeply moving, this compelling novel affirms the redemptive power of animals and the resilience of the human spirit.

Holley, O’Neal Library

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist,and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER!
Now being developed as a television series with Eva Longoria and ABC!
*An O, The Oprah Magazine's Best Nonfiction Book of 2019*  
*A People Magazine Book of the Week*
*An Apple Best Books Pick for April*
*An April IndieNext Pick*
*A Book of the Month Club Selection*
*A Publishers Marketplace Buzz Book*
*A Newsday, Apple iBooks, Thrive Global, Refinery29, 
and Book Riot Most Anticipated Book of 2019*

One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose of­fice she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but.

As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives -- a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys -- she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell.

With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change.

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is rev­olutionary in its candor, offering a deeply per­sonal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly reveal­ing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.

Michelle, Irondale Library

The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Frye by Rachel Joyce

Meet Harold Fry, recently retired. He lives in a small English village with his wife, Maureen, who seems irritated by almost everything he does, even down to how he butters his toast. Little differentiates one day from the next. Then one morning the mail arrives, and within the stack of quotidian minutiae is a letter addressed to Harold in a shaky scrawl from a woman he hasn’t seen or heard from in twenty years. Queenie Hennessy is in hospice and is writing to say goodbye.
 
Harold pens a quick reply and, leaving Maureen to her chores, heads to the corner mailbox. But then, as happens in the very best works of fiction, Harold has a chance encounter, one that convinces him that he absolutely must deliver his message to Queenie in person. And thus begins the unlikely pilgrimage at the heart of Rachel Joyce’s remarkable debut. Harold Fry is determined to walk six hundred miles from Kingsbridge to the hospice in Berwick-upon-Tweed because, he believes, as long as he walks, Queenie Hennessey will live.
 
Still in his yachting shoes and light coat, Harold embarks on his urgent quest across the countryside. Along the way he meets one fascinating character after another, each of whom unlocks his long-dormant spirit and sense of promise. Memories of his first dance with Maureen, his wedding day, his joy in fatherhood, come rushing back to him—allowing him to also reconcile the losses and the regrets. As for Maureen, she finds herself missing Harold for the first time in years. And then there is the unfinished business with Queenie Hennessy.
 
A novel of unsentimental charm, humor, and profound insight into the thoughts and feelings we all bury deep within our hearts, The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry introduces Rachel Joyce as a wise—and utterly irresistible—storyteller.

Michelle, Irondale Library

Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata, translated by Ginny Tapley Takemori

Shortlisted for the Best Translated Book Award
Longlisted for the Believer Book Award
Longlisted for the Warwick Prize for Women in Translation
A Los Angeles Times Bestseller

The English-language debut of one of Japan’s most talented contemporary writers, selling over 650,000 copies there, Convenience Store Woman is the heartwarming and surprising story of thirty-six-year-old Tokyo resident Keiko Furukura. Keiko has never fit in, neither in her family, nor in school, but when at the age of eighteen she begins working at the Hiiromachi branch of “Smile Mart,” she finds peace and purpose in her life.

In the store, unlike anywhere else, she understands the rules of social interaction―many are laid out line by line in the store’s manual―and she does her best to copy the dress, mannerisms, and speech of her colleagues, playing the part of a “normal” person excellently, more or less. Managers come and go, but Keiko stays at the store for eighteen years. It’s almost hard to tell where the store ends and she begins. Keiko is very happy, but the people close to her, from her family to her coworkers, increasingly pressure her to find a husband, and to start a proper career, prompting her to take desperate action…

A brilliant depiction of an unusual psyche and a world hidden from view, Convenience Store Woman is an ironic and sharp-eyed look at contemporary work culture and the pressures to conform, as well as a charming and completely fresh portrait of an unforgettable heroine.

Nicole, Tarrant Library
Joi, Vestavia Library

The Love Song of Miss Queenie Hennessy by Rachel Joyce

In this poignant parallel story to Harold’s saga, acclaimed author Rachel Joyce brings Queenie Hennessy’s voice into sharp focus. Setting pen to paper, Queenie makes a journey of her own, a journey that is even bigger than Harold’s; one word after another, she promises to confess long-buried truths—about her modest childhood, her studies at Oxford, the heartbreak that brought her to Kingsbridge and to loving Harold, her friendship with his son, the solace she has found in a garden by the sea. And, finally, the devastating secret she has kept from Harold for all these years.

A wise, tender, layered novel that gathers tremendous emotional force, The Love Song of Miss Queenie Hennessy underscores the resilience of the human spirit, beautifully illuminating the small yet pivotal moments that can change a person’s life.
Michelle, Irondale Library

All the Greys on Greene Street by Laura Tucker

SoHo, 1981. Twelve-year-old Olympia is an artist--and in her neighborhood, that's normal. Her dad and his business partner Apollo bring antique paintings back to life, while her mother makes intricate sculptures in a corner of their loft, leaving Ollie to roam the streets of New York with her best friends Richard and Alex, drawing everything that catches her eye. Then everything falls apart.

Ollie's dad disappears in the middle of the night, leaving her only a cryptic note and instructions to destroy it. Her mom has gone to bed, and she's not getting up. Apollo is hiding something, Alex is acting strange, and Richard has questions about the mysterious stranger he saw outside. And someone keeps calling, looking for a missing piece of art. . . Olympia knows her dad is the key--but first, she has to find him, and time is running out.

Laura, Homewood Library

The Astonishing Color of After by Emily X.R. Pan

A stunning, heartbreaking debut novel about grief, love, and family, perfect for fans of Jandy Nelson and Celeste Ng.

Leigh Chen Sanders is absolutely certain about one thing: When her mother died by suicide, she turned into a bird. Leigh, who is half Asian and half white, travels to Taiwan to meet her maternal grandparents for the first time. There, she is determined to find her mother, the bird. In her search, she winds up chasing after ghosts, uncovering family secrets, and forging a new relationship with her grandparents. And as she grieves, she must try to reconcile the fact that on the same day she kissed her best friend and longtime secret crush, Axel, her mother was taking her own life.

Alternating between real and magic, past and present, friendship and romance, hope and despair, The Astonishing Color of After is a stunning and heartbreaking novel about finding oneself through family history, art, grief, and love.

Nisha, Hoover/O’Neal libraries

Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman (and podcast)

A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.

Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship—its joys and its pitfalls.

Aminatou and Ann define Big Friendship as a strong, significant bond that transcends life phases, geographical locations, and emotional shifts. And they should know: the two have had moments of charmed bliss and deep frustration, of profound connection and gut-wrenching alienation. They have weathered life-threatening health scares, getting fired from their dream jobs, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a car in a parking lot in Rancho Cucamonga. Through interviews with friends and experts, they have come to understand that their struggles are not unique. And that the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the decision to invest in one another again and again.

An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.

Laura, Homewood Library

Aminatou and Ann have a podcast called Call Your Girlfriend, described as “a podcast for long distance besties everywhere.” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/call-your-girlfriend/id881487725

The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang

Stella Lane thinks math is the only thing that unites the universe. She comes up with algorithms to predict customer purchases—a job that has given her more money than she knows what to do with, and way less experience in the dating department than the average thirty-year-old.

It doesn't help that Stella has Asperger's and French kissing reminds her of a shark getting its teeth cleaned by pilot fish. Her conclusion: she needs lots of practice—with a professional. Which is why she hires escort Michael Phan. The Vietnamese and Swedish stunner can't afford to turn down Stella's offer, and agrees to help her check off all the boxes on her lesson plan—from foreplay to more-than-missionary position...

Before long, Stella not only learns to appreciate his kisses, but crave all of the other things he's making her feel. Their no-nonsense partnership starts making a strange kind of sense. And the pattern that emerges will convince Stella that love is the best kind of logic...

Shawn, Pinson Library

The Bride Test by Helen Kwang

Khai Diep has no feelings. Well, he feels irritation when people move his things or contentment when ledgers balance down to the penny, but not big, important emotions—like grief. And love. He thinks he's defective. His family knows better—that his autism means he just processes emotions differently. When he steadfastly avoids relationships, his mother takes matters into her own hands and returns to Vietnam to find him the perfect bride.

As a mixed-race girl living in the slums of Ho Chi Minh City, Esme Tran has always felt out of place. When the opportunity arises to come to America and meet a potential husband, she can't turn it down, thinking this could be the break her family needs. Seducing Khai, however, doesn't go as planned. Esme's lessons in love seem to be working...but only on herself. She's hopelessly smitten with a man who's convinced he can never return her affection. With Esme's time in the United States dwindling, Khai is forced to understand he's been wrong all along. And there's more than one way to love.

Joi, Vestavia Library

A Child Called It: One Child’s Courage to Survive by Dave Pelzer

This book chronicles the unforgettable account of one of the most severe child abuse cases in California history. It is the story of Dave Pelzer, who was brutally beaten and starved by his emotionally unstable, alcoholic mother: a mother who played tortuous, unpredictable games--games that left him nearly dead. He had to learn how to play his mother's games in order to survive because she no longer considered him a son, but a slave; and no longer a boy, but an "it."

Dave's bed was an old army cot in the basement, and his clothes were torn and raunchy. When his mother allowed him the luxury of food, it was nothing more than spoiled scraps that even the dogs refused to eat. The outside world knew nothing of his living nightmare. He had nothing or no one to turn to, but his dreams kept him alive--dreams of someone taking care of him, loving him and calling him their son.

Shawn, Pinson Library

Get a Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert

Talia Hibbert, one of contemporary romance’s brightest new stars, delivers a witty, hilarious romantic comedy about a woman who’s tired of being “boring” and recruits her mysterious, sexy neighbor to help her experience new things - perfect for fans of Sally Thorne, Jasmine Guillory, and Helen Hoang!

Chloe Brown is a chronically ill computer geek with a goal, a plan, and a list. After almost - but not quite - dying, she’s come up with seven directives to help her “Get a Life”, and she’s already completed the first: finally moving out of her glamorous family’s mansion. The next items?

Enjoy a drunken night out.
Ride a motorcycle.
Go camping.
Have meaningless but thoroughly enjoyable sex.
Travel the world with nothing but hand luggage.
And...do something bad.

But it’s not easy being bad, even when you’ve written step-by-step guidelines on how to do it correctly. What Chloe needs is a teacher, and she knows just the man for the job. Redford "Red" Morgan is a handyman with tattoos, a motorcycle, and more sex appeal than 10,000 Hollywood heartthrobs. He’s also an artist who paints at night and hides his work in the light of day, which Chloe knows because she spies on him occasionally. Just the teeniest, tiniest bit.

But when she enlists Red in her mission to rebel, she learns things about him that no spy session could teach her. Like why he clearly resents Chloe’s wealthy background. And why he never shows his art to anyone. And what really lies beneath his rough exterior.... 

Joi, Vestavia Library

Take a Hint, Dani Brown by Talia Hibbert

One of Oprah Magazine's 21 Romance Novels That Are Set to Be the Best of 2020

Danika Brown knows what she wants: professional success, academic renown, and an occasional roll in the hay to relieve all that career-driven tension. But romance? Been there, done that, burned the T-shirt. Romantic partners, whatever their gender, are a distraction at best and a drain at worst. So Dani asks the universe for the perfect friend-with-benefits - someone who knows the score and knows their way around the bedroom.

When big, brooding security guard Zafir Ansari rescues Dani from a workplace fire drill gone wrong, it's an obvious sign: PhD student Dani and former rugby player Zaf are destined to sleep together. But before she can explain that fact to him, a video of the heroic rescue goes viral. Suddenly, half the internet is shipping #DrRugbae - and Zaf is begging Dani to play along. Turns out, his sports charity for kids could really use the publicity. Lying to help children? Who on earth would refuse? Dani's plan is simple: fake a relationship in public, seduce Zaf behind the scenes. The trouble is, grumpy Zaf is secretly a hopeless romantic - and he's determined to corrupt Dani's stone-cold realism. Before long, he's tackling her fears into the dirt. But the former sports star has issues of his own, and the walls around his heart are as thick as his...um, thighs.

The easy lay Dani dreamed of is now more complex than her thesis. Has her wish backfired? Is her focus being tested? Or is the universe just waiting for her to take a hint?

Joi, Vestavia Library

Wednesday, August 12, 2020

self help

 

The next JPCLA Reader’s Advisory Roundtable (RART) meeting will be on Zoom on Wednesday, October 14, 2020 at 9am and we’ll be discussing mental illness and disability in fiction.

Due to the recent internet outage the cooperative is experiencing this morning, the voting agenda for topics and moderator (should any one else have a wish to run) for 2021-22 has been pushed back to the October meeting.

Keep your email eyes peeled for the upcoming JCPLA Staff Appreciation Week the end of September.  Your executive committee is hard at work crafting quality content for you! If you or your library offers online form-based reader’s advisory, or any other virtual RA, do let me know at hwesley@oneallibrary.org.

This morning, RART met on Zoom for a discussion of self-help titles. All blurbs pulled from amazon.com unless otherwise noted.

Thirteen in attendance:

Holley W, O’Neal
Paul C, BPL Southside
Loretta J, BPL Powderly
Tamiko N, BPL North Birmingham
Lynn H, BPL Central
Beth L, BPL Central Southern History
Nicole L, Tarrant
Erika W, BPL Smithfield
Jiemin F, BPL Central Circulation
Shawn C, Pinson
Leigh W, BPL North Birmingham
I did not catch a library name for Jackie N and Lawana R. 

Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength by Roy F. Baumeister and John Tierney

One of the world's most esteemed and influential psychologists, Roy F. Baumeister, teams with New York Times science writer John Tierney to reveal the secrets of self-control and how to master it.

Holley, O’Neal Library

The Bullet Journal Method: Track the Past, Order the Present, Design the Future by Ryder Carroll

New York Times bestseller! A powerful goal-setting and time-management system for anyone trying to organize their lives by the founder of the enormously popular Bullet Journal® planner.

Lynn, BPL Central

What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower’s Guide to Why You Are Already Enough by Chidera Eggerue

Peppered with insightful Igbo proverbs from Chidera's Nigerian mother and full of her own original artwork, What A Time To Be Alone will help you navigate the modern world. We can all decide our own fates and Chidera shows us how, using a three part approach filled with sass, wisdom, and charm.

Shawn, Pinson

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature.

Shawn, Pinson

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Shawn, Pinson

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie

With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.

Shawn, Pinson

Everyone’s a Aliebn When Ur a Aliebn Too by Jomny Sun

Everyone’s a Aliebn When Ur a Aliebn Too is the illustrated story of a lonely alien sent to observe Earth, only to meet all sorts of creatures with all sorts of perspectives on life, love, and happiness, all while learning to feel a little better about being an alien—based on the enormously popular Twitter account, @jonnysun.

Holley, O’Neal Library

On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Kübler-Ross’s famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives readers a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient's family, bringing hope to all who are involved.

Leigh, BPL North Birmingham

The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck

Written in a voice that is timeless in its message of understanding, The Road Less Traveled continues to help us explore the very nature of loving relationships and leads us toward a new serenity and fullness of life. It helps us learn how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become a more sensitive parent; and ultimately how to become one’s own true self.

Holley, O’Neal Library

Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren’t by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance, and work. 

Loretta, BPL Powderly

The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing I the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin

In this lively and compelling account, Rubin chronicles her adventures during the twelve months she spent test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific research, and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier. Among other things, she found that novelty and challenge are powerful sources of happiness; that money can help buy happiness, when spent wisely; that outer order contributes to inner calm; and that the very smallest of changes can make the biggest difference.

Holley, O’Neal Library

Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be by Rachel Hollis

Rachel is real and talks about real issues. More than that, she reveals the specific practical strategies that helped her move past them. In the process, she encourages, entertains, and even kicks a little butt, all to convince you to do whatever it takes to get real and become the joyous, confident woman you were meant to be. Because you really can live with passion and hustle – and give yourself grace without giving up.

Shawn, Pinson

Girl, Stop Apologizing: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals by Rachel Hollis

With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.

Shawn, Pinson

The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Greene (not available in the JCLC system)

In The 50th Law, hip hop and pop culture icon 50 Cent (aka Curtis Jackson) joins forces with Robert Greene, best-selling author of The 48 Laws of Power, to write a "bible" for success in life and work, based on a single principle: fear nothing. This deeply inspirational book is perfect for entrepreneurs as well as anyone interested in the extraordinary life of Curtis Jackson.

 

Shawn, Pinson

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz

In The Four Agreements, bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

Jiemin, BPL Central Circuation

The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships by Esther & Jerry Hicks

This book uncovers a myriad of false premises that are at the heart of every uncomfortable relationship issue, and guides you to a clear understanding of the powerful creative Vortex that has already assembled the relationships that you have desired. 

Jiemin, BPL Central Circulation

What Color is Your Parachute?: A Practical Manual for Job Hunters and Career-Changers by Richard N. Bolles

With more than 10 million copies sold in 28 countries, the world's most popular job-search book is updated each year, tailoring Richard Bolles's long-trusted guidance with up-to-the-minute information and advice for today's job-hunters and career-changers.

Leigh, BPL North Birmingham

 

GENERAL DISCUSSION:

Books coauthored by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Brene Brown’s work

Those expletives books:

The Badass series of books by Jen Sincero

Unfu*k Yourself series of books by Gary John Bishop

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

self help books

Our next meeting will be on Wednesday, December 11th at 9am at the Emmet O'Neal Library for a discussion of Holiday Writing.  Fiction, nonfiction, pagan, religious...you pick, then come tell us about it!  Our December meeting is a potluck meeting so if you are so inclined, bring a small snack to share.

If you shared a book with us at this morning's meeting, please do get an annotation to me at your earliest convenience.  And again, a big thank you goes out to Samuel for presenting the Reader's Advisory program at the most recent JCPLA Staff Developement Day!

Today, we talked about self help books and the many, many varieties out there.  Pretty much, if you have a need for help and advice with anything, chances are very good that someone has written a book about it.

A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
When world-renowned writer C.S. Lewis met Joy Davidman Gresham, his life changed forever. He first married her in a civil ceremony to extend his British citizenship to her so she could raise her sons in England, but he soon realized he sincerely loved her and went through a formal ceremony with her to show his love in the sight of God and man---and to sustain her after her diagnosis of bone cancer. When Joy’s cancer went into a sudden remission, Lewis dared to hope that she might be spared, that the miracle he had prayed for had occurred . . . but it was not to be. Joy died, leaving Lewis shattered with grief, resentment, and doubt about his Christian beliefs. Seeking an outlet for his tumultuous emotions, Lewis took to writing down observations in empty notebooks he found around the house. The final result of these jottings is A Grief Observed, now a classic in the literature of bereavement and one that does not shrink from the uglier and more frightening aspects of the grief process. Lewis, famous for his Christian apologetic works such as Mere Christianity and The Problem of Pain, now had to deal with his own disappointment and rage over how God had dealt (or failed to deal with) this tragedy. “Is it rational to believe in a bad God? Anyway, in a God so bad as all that?”  He also reflects upon his fear that he will forget what his wife was really like, as “I have no photograph of her that’s any good. I cannot even see her face distinctly in my imagination.” Bit by bit, as time passes and he recovers from the exhausting initial stages of grief and loss, Lewis slowly finds his way back to  a degree of peace and faith: “Something quite unexpected has happened . . . suddenly, at the very moment when I mourned [her] least, I remembered her best . . . it was as if the lifting of the sorrow removed a barrier.”
As Madeleine L’Engle points out in her foreword to this edition, part of the great comfort offered by this work is Lewis’ willingness “to yell, to doubt, to kick at God with angry violence.” Not for nothing is anger part of the grief process, and if a reader needs a book that will make him feel safe with that anger, it would be hard to find a better one for that purpose than A Grief Observed.
Mary Anne, BPL Central Southern History

Live!  Don't DIEt!: The Low Fat Cookbook That Can Change Your Life by Vicki Park
“Forget about calorie counting! Forget about dieting! Vicki Park did , and lost 165 pounds.”
Sounds too good to be true, right? But read on. This combination cookbook and lifestyle advice book isn’t trying to be a quick “miracle cure” of the weight-loss industry. Park, after realizing that fad diets left her feeling deprived and didn’t help with weight loss, decided that what was in order was not another diet but an entire lifestyle change. She didn’t want to give up her favorite foods, so she created recipes that removed most or all of the fat from the dishes she loved like fried chicken, macaroni and cheese, and onion rings. She also developed her mantra for preparing and eating the new versions: “I will not let myself compare the taste of my low-fat foods to their high-far counterparts. I will simply enjoy them, without making any comparison.”
Along with low-fat and no-fat recipes, Park also shares tips about how to re-equip your kitchen for the low-fat lifestyle, how to use your microwave for healthy cooking, and how to work more activity and exercise into your life. Again, the emphasis is on changing habits: this isn’t a crash diet to be discontinued after a certain amount of weight loss, but a new way of thinking, cooking, and eating. And after sampling some of the recipes such as Moist and Tender Oven-Fried Chicken, Crisp Corn Salad, and Tuna Casserole—Again? I can truthfully say that this is enjoyable food, whether or not you need a weight loss plan. This is a fun and useful addition to any cookbook shelf or any self-help collection.
Mary Anne, BPL Southern History

The AKC's Meet the Breeds: Dog Breeds from A to Z from the American Kennel Club
Before you buy that cute puppy, do your homework and make sure you’re getting the right dog for you and your family. Meet the Breeds makes it easy to review the various dog breeds by presenting the essential information about each AKC-recognized breed in a compact and reader-friendly format. Along with color photographs that show each breed as both puppy and full-grown dog (so you know what you’re getting into before you take on that adorable English Mastiff puppy that will grow to the size of a middle linebacker!), the book features sidebars with information about life expectancy, activity level, grooming requirements, and temperament. Do you want a dog to go jogging with you, or do you want one that will be happy to be a couch potato? Do you live in a small apartment or do you have a 40-acre field to accommodate one of the active giant breeds? Do you need a dog that will be child-friendly? Make your list of requirements and check out Meet the Breeds to help you welcome the right dog into its forever home with you.
Mary Anne, BPL Southern History

The Noticer: Sometimes You Find Perspective, and Sometimes Perspective Finds You by Andy Andrews
Kelly, Springville Road

How Do You Kill 11 Million People?: Why the Truth Matters More Than You Think by Andy Andrews
Kelly, Springville Road

The Happiness Project: or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin
April, Pinson

Happier At Home: Kiss More, Jump More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Life by Gretchen Rubin
April, Pinson

Girls Get Curves: Geometry Takes Shape by Danica McKellar
New York Times bestselling author and mathemetician Danica McKellar tackles all the angles—and curves—of geometry In her three previous bestselling books Math Doesn't Suck, Kiss My Math, and Hot X: Algebra Exposed!, actress and math genius Danica McKellar shattered the “math nerd” stereotype by showing girls how to ace their math classes and feel cool while doing it.  Sizzling with Danica's trademark sass and style, her fourth book, Girls Get Curves, shows her readers how to feel confident, get in the driver's seat, and master the core concepts of high school geometry, including congruent triangles, quadrilaterals, circles, proofs, theorems, and more!  Combining reader favorites like personality quizzes, fun doodles, real-life testimonials from successful women, and stories about her own experiences with illuminating step-by-step math lessons, Girls Get Curves will make girls feel like Danica is their own personal tutor.  As hundreds of thousands of girls already know, Danica's irreverent, lighthearted approach opens the door to math success and higher scores, while also boosting their self-esteem in all areas of life. Girls Get Curves makes geometry understandable, relevant, and maybe even a little (gasp!) fun for girls.  (from Amazon.com)
Samuel, BPL Central BST

The Plan: Eliminate the Surprising "Healthy" Foods That Are Making You Fat--and Lose Weight Fast by Lyn-Genet Recitas
Mondretta, Leeds

The Not So Big Life: Making Room for What Really Matters by Sarah Susanka
Sarah Susanka, best known as an architect and proponent of the "Not So Big" philosophy of architecture and interior design (i.e. quality over quantity), has written a self-help book applying the same less-is-more ideas to everyday living.  With the help of an advisor, she demonstrates how small changes can make a big impact on our success and happiness.  She applies these ideas to herself and discusses the outcomes, suggesting ways to examine our lives, eliminate the "clutter" and focus on the things that really matter.
Maura, Trussville

Throw Out Fifty Things: Clear the Clutter, Find Your Life by Gail Blanke
Life coach and motivational speaker Gail Blanke tells us how to eliminate physical and mental/emotional clutter by letting go of things (recycle, donate, discard) and old grudges, disappointments, negative experiences, etc.  Each chapter focuses on a specific room or area for clearing out and describes the increase in energy and motivation we should gain from each completed project.  She uses the term "life plaque" to describe the gunk that builds up around us and prevents us from living a more fulfilling life.
Maura, Trussville

This is How: Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude and More--For Young and Old Alike by Augusten Burroughs
Maura, Trussville

The End of Overeating: Taking Control of the Insatiable American Appetite by Dr. David Kessler
Dr. Kessler makes the biology behind the overeating impulse, if not easy to defeat, at least easier to understand and combat.  Habit and addiction are tough to fight where food is concerned.  Unlike with a drug or alcohol addiction, one cannot simply abstain from eating.  It's an addiction that you must manage in the face of constant confrontation.  It isn't easy.  Some days it doesn't even feel possible.  However, reading about the science behind why I sometimes feel like I'm losing my mind is comforting and strengthening, possibly even enough to win my battles today.  And if I win them today, I just might tomorrow.  Who knows what good habits may emerge...
Holley, Emmet O'Neal

O's Best Advice Ever!: Make Over Your Life with Oprah and Friends, Including Dr. Oz, Bob Greene, Suze Orman, Dr. Phil, Martha Beck, and More by Oprah Winfrey
This is a glossy compilation of the best advice and wisdom from Oprah Winfrey’s magazine, O, the Oprah Magazine and from twenty-five years of The Oprah Winfrey Show. Oprah shares her personal advice, selections of interviews with famous people from The Oprah Winfrey Show, and information from contributors to her magazine and show on the topics of:  health, fitness, money, happiness, and relationships.  The book is conducive to being read in short segments of time or to being used to refer to topics of interest; as the articles in it are a few pages in length.  Fans of Oprah Winfrey and those looking for quick, not in-depth advice on a number of topics will enjoy this book.
Leigh, North Birmingham

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice On Love and Life From Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed
Before Cheryl Strayed was the best-selling author of the memoir Wild, she wrote the anonymous advice column Dear Sugar for online literary magazine The Rumpus. As Dear Sugar, Strayed consistently answered the emails of troubled readers with thoughtful, gut-wrenchingly honest responses. Wild lovers will want to read more of Strayed's own journey but anyone struggling with issues of the heart will find sound advice within these pages. Highly recommended.
Amanda, Emmet O'Neal

Adulting: How to Become a Grown Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps by Kelly Williams Brown
As the author of the popular blog Adulting, Kelly Williams Brown has been spreading good common sense advice for a few years now. In her first book (I say first, because I hope there will be more to come) Brown writes accessibly with friendly ease. It's as though your cool older sister is telling you how she messed up after college and how you can avoid making the same mistakes. Topics include domestic, professional, and social advice. Brown's penchant for quoting gangster rap and fey illustrations keep Adulting from being preachy.
Amanda, Emmet O'Neal

The Tao of Martha: My Year of LIVING; or, Why I'm Never, Ever Getting All That Glitter Off of the Dog by Jen Lancaster
This book is part self help but is all funny. Lancaster decides after a year of not feeling her life is working for her, that she'll institute a new regime of following Martha Stewart's rules for all areas of her hearth and home. So from gardening, baking, decorating, organizing, to throwing parties and more she looks up and does (mostly) by the book what the Stewart Empire recommends. Sometimes she takes shortcuts and fails, miserably and hilariously. It is these moments that really shine and stick with the reader.  I listened to the audiobook which Lancaster narrates. It was literally laugh out loud enjoyable and while I'm sure her written works are just as good, I highly recommend her audio versions. Her comedic timing is perfect.  Through her trials and (many) errors she realizes that living a year of Martha really did help her improve so many areas of her life. I think the most fascinating part of Lancaster's writing is that as you travel along her year of self improvement you feel as though you know her, really know her. She has a way of making the reader feel intimately involved in her crazy, wild, funny life. Even if you don't walk away improved in your domestic skills, you will walk away feeling better about yourself and happier I assure you.
Gina, Gardendale

What are YOU reading?
Holley